... so I just found this post in one of my tabs, dated July 13th, and apparently I stopped in the middle of writing it, and I am not totally sure where it was going, but I'm just gonna post it like this, because at least it says something...
My mom is fascinated with slash, and why her lesbian daughter who has zero interest in dick personally is so interested in writing about it, so I find myself thinking about the whys more often than I might if no one was questioning me. I was just looking at this gifset and the tags (whatup,![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
balefully), and was struck with how much sexual freedom that represents. The freedom to sit, drooling for their genitals, at the feet of two people standing over you, is something so politically loaded for women, that it almost feels impossible. And, yes, what I'm writing is fiction, but I tend to write stories set in our world in our time, and the reality of that setting is that women and girls have grown up dealing with a fuckton of shaming (and often violence) around female sexuality. In an ideal world, I'd be able to fling off the weight of that and write characters who navigate not only the bedroom but their whole lives without feeling the effects of that, but I find it exceedingly difficult to do so.
For me, one thing writing explicit m/m fic does, is give me a way to express and explore my own sexuality without feeling the press of the socio-political. I can co-opt the less complicated sexual freedom men and boys are afforded (at least in the US and England, the two places I have experience living), and claim it as my own through my POV character and the characters they have sex with. This is far from the only reason I write slash, and the reasons are complicated, but it definitely plays a factor.
My mom is fascinated with slash, and why her lesbian daughter who has zero interest in dick personally is so interested in writing about it, so I find myself thinking about the whys more often than I might if no one was questioning me. I was just looking at this gifset and the tags (whatup,
balefully), and was struck with how much sexual freedom that represents. The freedom to sit, drooling for their genitals, at the feet of two people standing over you, is something so politically loaded for women, that it almost feels impossible. And, yes, what I'm writing is fiction, but I tend to write stories set in our world in our time, and the reality of that setting is that women and girls have grown up dealing with a fuckton of shaming (and often violence) around female sexuality. In an ideal world, I'd be able to fling off the weight of that and write characters who navigate not only the bedroom but their whole lives without feeling the effects of that, but I find it exceedingly difficult to do so. For me, one thing writing explicit m/m fic does, is give me a way to express and explore my own sexuality without feeling the press of the socio-political. I can co-opt the less complicated sexual freedom men and boys are afforded (at least in the US and England, the two places I have experience living), and claim it as my own through my POV character and the characters they have sex with. This is far from the only reason I write slash, and the reasons are complicated, but it definitely plays a factor.
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